| "If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I will tell | | | | NEVER get consensus. So, stop looking for it. The only |
| you, I came to Live Out LOUD." ~Émile Zola | | | | question you have to ask is, does your opinion matter |
| 1. Live your life on purpose. Not on "DEFAULT ". Be | | | | to you? Claim it. Own it. And know that with new |
| Proactive. Make conscious and deliberate choices. | | | | information, it could change tomorrow. Life is transitory. |
| When you don't choose, circumstances choose for | | | | Live in the evolution. |
| you and you are never leading: you are following or | | | | 16. Do not punish yourself for past actions. Know this: |
| catching up, or worse, living in "default" mode. Instead, | | | | your past behavior was what you've DONE, but it is |
| make a decision to be the leader in your own life and | | | | not who you ARE. Who you ARE is still unfolding, |
| take front and center. Lead. | | | | being discovered, being triumphant in it's evolving |
| 2. Utilize your full potential. Give what you're doing your | | | | stages. Forgive yourself for past actions.Stop berating |
| best and fullest attention. Be here now. Even if you're | | | | yourself. Mistakes, errors in judgments, and failures all |
| not where you want to be, giving it half your effort | | | | add to our character and value. It makes us human |
| doesn't move you forward. Master what you have at | | | | and compassionate and wise. To berate yourself for |
| hand, for the sake of mastering it, and something will | | | | acquiring these VALUABLE qualities is wrong, so stop |
| shift. Give it what you've got. | | | | it. A new beginning starts today. Living Out Loud |
| 3. Overcome your fear. Get out of your comfort zone. | | | | means claiming yourself in your entirety (warts and all), |
| Find out you have a pulse. Let something give you | | | | and to see your own beauty in the midst of it all. |
| butterflies in your stomach. This is how you know | | | | 17. Live in the realm of "possibility" rather than |
| you're alive - how you grow into something new. | | | | "probability". Stay open at the top. You don't know |
| Every fear overcome is a freedom gained. The less | | | | what the outcome can be. Statistics are made up of |
| afraid you are,the more room you have to play. | | | | groups. You are an Individual. Be the individual that |
| Consider that you live in a huge mansion with 35 | | | | charts your own course. The laws of the universe |
| rooms but you only live in 3 of the rooms because the | | | | adhere to your vibration. So declare it. Do not fall into |
| rest of the house is dark. Go in and open all the lights. | | | | the temptation of "GROUP THINK". Own your truth. |
| Unveil the darkness and you have a bigger house to | | | | You don't know what is possible for you until you find |
| play in. Don't know how to overcome fear? Do the | | | | out. |
| thing you're afraid of. Cross them off the list. Make it a | | | | 18. Do not argue for your limitations, but instead focus |
| game. Pretty soon, you will be invincible. Living a life out | | | | on your strengths. We all have weaknesses, but we |
| loud, is living a life of freedom. Living a life of freedom | | | | also have our strengths. What do you do well? |
| is good. | | | | Practice that. When you lead with your strengths, the |
| 4. Discover a new talent. One of my favorite quotes | | | | rest follows suit. And miraculously, your limitations sort |
| by Martha Grimes is, "We don't know who we are until | | | | of disappear. What you focus on grows. |
| we see what we can do". But we don't find this out | | | | 19. Practice gratitude. In a world of imperfections, it's |
| until we try something new. You don't know what | | | | amazing how perfect things actually are. But |
| jewels you have inside of you until you tap into them. | | | | sometimes we have to look for them. Practicing |
| You might just find out you are a multi-talented, | | | | gratitude is an antidote to depression. It is also the |
| multi-faceted individual. Don't know what to try? Here | | | | precursor to a fabulous life. The more grateful you are, |
| are some suggestions; learn a new instrument, take an | | | | the more you have to be grateful for. This goes with |
| art class, play with a digital camera, sign up for a salsa | | | | #1 & #6. When your life's circumstances aren't |
| class, take up cooking, plant a garden, join | | | | working in your favor, the one thing you DO have |
| toastmasters, pick up a needle and thread, try | | | | control over is your attitude. If you lead with gratitude, |
| mountain climbing, go scuba diving, camping or | | | | and create a habit of it, in short order, your life will |
| kayaking. The list is endless. And they don't all cost | | | | change. |
| money. Create an online social network. Find | | | | 20. Be authentic. Thoreau said something profound, "If I |
| something that interests you and explore it. You never | | | | am not I, who will be?" Why try to be like anyone |
| know what will come out of it and isn't that the whole | | | | else? Did you ever notice that the ones who are most |
| purpose of being here? To discover who you are? | | | | successful are not the ones that follow the masses |
| 5. Honor your word. When you strip everything else | | | | and trends, but the ones who stand in their own |
| away, your word is all you've got. Do what you say | | | | authentic expression and declare who they are? |
| you're going to do. By honoring your word, you honor | | | | Regardless of who agrees with them? There is an |
| yourself. And it doesn't feel good when you don't. So, | | | | expression that is uniquely yours and to dismiss it, is to |
| make it a habit. Value your integrity and keep your | | | | dismiss the divine. Living Out Loud is leading with the |
| promises. It's a good life practice. It's a good business | | | | authentic. Don't know what that looks like for you? |
| practice. | | | | Then, that's a good place to start. Live in the question. |
| 6. Create a new habit or break an old one. This goes | | | | Watch for clues. |
| in line with #1 - Leading. Who has dominion over your | | | | 21. Own your own power. Innately, we were given an |
| life - you or your habits? Make it a game. How many | | | | inner guidance, an inner knowing that is capable of |
| things can you get under your control? How many bad | | | | leading us to live extraordinary lives. And something in |
| habits can you convert. Jack Canfield in his book, | | | | you is always aware of this knowing. The answers |
| Success Principles: How to Get from Where you Are | | | | are not outside of you. Own what you know. The |
| to Where You Want to Be includes a chapter entitled: | | | | more you practice this, the more you hone your own |
| Develop Four New Success Habits a Year. There is a | | | | powerful magnetic field that surrounds you and the |
| great sense of empowerment when you feel you are | | | | more power you emit in your convictions, knowing and |
| in charge of your life. This helps you get there. | | | | in your life.And your results will confirm this. |
| 7. Pay a stranger a compliment. Does the woman | | | | 22. Stop Complaining. Complaining is a form of passive |
| ahead of you in the check out have a fabulous hair | | | | victimhood. It's a way of saying that someone (or |
| style? Tell her so. Is the man on the subway wearing a | | | | something else) has taken dominion over your life. |
| nice tie? Tell him so. Not only does it make someone | | | | Stop. Ask yourself instead, why is this happening to |
| else feel good, but it makes you feel good to | | | | me and what part do I play in this picture? And then |
| compliment someone else. All of the sudden the world | | | | work on YOUR part of the solution. Have you ever |
| is small and the stranger next to us becomes our | | | | found yourself not setting a boundary and allowing |
| friend and we recognize that we're all in this together. | | | | someone to take advantage of you? Maybe you didn't |
| 8. Take yourself out on a date. Are you ashamed to | | | | take care of yourself so well in a situation and got |
| be single? Don't be. And don't wait until you have | | | | burned by the outcome? Or, have you ever not |
| company to get out. Treat yourself. Bring a book. Bring | | | | trusted your gut instinct and ended up having to pay |
| something you're working on. Bring a journal and use it | | | | the consequence? We are always the single common |
| to write up all the amazing qualities that you want in a | | | | denominators in our life and we are the only ones we |
| partner or a friendship when it comes your way. Find | | | | have control over. Use what you are complaining |
| somewhere that has music or wireless and plant | | | | about as your inner clues as to where you need to |
| yourself there. Have a meal, enjoy it. Treat yourself. | | | | start taking better care of yourself. Be the VICTOR in |
| You deserve it. Living out loud is playing out loud | | | | your life. It's the only life you have to work with. This is |
| whether you have someone to join you or not. And | | | | part of leading and not living your life on default. |
| you never know who you might meet or strike up a | | | | 23. Practice "Being" and have nothing to prove. Know |
| conversation with. There may be another single diner | | | | your own value with or without results. Your value is in |
| dining about, or your waitress (or waiter) may become | | | | your human Being-ness not your Human Doingness.In a |
| your new best friend. Again, small world. Six degrees | | | | society that is wrapped up in image, this is sometimes |
| of separation. We're all in this together. There is no | | | | difficult to practice. People ask what you DO, not who |
| "right" way to do it. Make your own rules. Live by them. | | | | you ARE. But a person who knows their own value, |
| 9. Take 100% responsibility for your life. If things aren't | | | | does not have to prove it. There is great power in just |
| working out in your favor, take note and ask yourself | | | | being. Be still and know that you are GOD. "To a mind |
| what your part in it is? Being a victim, is passé, | | | | that is still, the whole universe surrenders." Chuang-tse |
| boring. There is no power in blaming other people. Don't | | | | 24. Be of service. Cast a wider net, energetically, of |
| wait for other people to change. When you change, | | | | your circle of friends. Be of service where you can, to |
| your world will follow suit. Claim dominion over the only | | | | who you can be of service to. Edwene Gaines, a |
| life you have control over. Use the unwanted | | | | funny teacher, says "Don't be so "spiritual" that you're |
| circumstances to make clear what NEW thing you | | | | of no earthly good!" Offer your help where you can |
| want to create in your life and then start asking about | | | | and do your part in making the world a friendly place. |
| how to get there. You will be led, but you first have to | | | | We are all in this together. As Gandhi preached: BE |
| lead with the question, the intention, the commitment to | | | | the change that you wish to see happen. You would |
| change. There is no power outside of yourself. | | | | be surprised by the impact you have. |
| 10. Live in the question. There is nothing you cannot be, | | | | 25. Love generously. Spread random acts of kindness |
| do or have. So do not impose limitations on yourself. | | | | and senseless acts of beauty. Hatred is already |
| You are ALWAYS in co-creation with something | | | | rampant. We need to tip the scales the other way. |
| much bigger than you. Call it God, Universe, Angels, | | | | Love is a far more powerful emotion and has far |
| Divine Beings - you have an invisible team that is | | | | reaching consequences. Living out Loud means Loving |
| supporting you, waiting on your very direction. But it | | | | Out Loud. And ironically, the more you love, the more |
| works in collaboration with you, in partnership. Instead | | | | love you have to give. It is a generative emotion |
| of saying you can't get there, ask "How can I get | | | | capable of transforming the entire planet. Be generous |
| there?" Live in the affirmation of possibility rather than | | | | with it. Don't skimp. |
| the declaration of negativity. There is always a way, | | | | 26. Find your bliss and live your passion. Again, don't |
| and it is being presented consistently, but you have to | | | | know what that is? Then it's time to find out! Your |
| live in the question to be on the lookout for the answer. | | | | emotions give away clues. When your life has spun |
| 11. Make more decisions for yourself. Living out Loud is | | | | out of control and you are finding yourself in a tizzy, go |
| about being a DECIDER. It's part of taking dominion | | | | back to what makes you happiest and do that. The |
| over your life. When you are not making the decision, | | | | more you follow this thread, the more you are leading |
| something or someone else is deciding for you. People | | | | with the heart. There are always ways to monetize |
| who have become successful made a decision to | | | | your passion, to find ways to make a living at what |
| become successful. There is great power in making a | | | | you love, but first you have to discover it. Your |
| decision. It's a declaration. You don't know what you | | | | emotions don't lie. Follow their lead. They will "true" you |
| want? Then look at what you DON'T want and work | | | | every time. If it's not a "Hell Yeah" (yippee, hooray, |
| backwards. I bet you DO know what you want, you | | | | more of this please!) then it's not worth exploring. Find |
| just haven't been in the habit of asking yourself. Hey. | | | | out what rocks your world and play there for awhile. |
| That's a new habit to change! (See #6) | | | | Find out where it takes you. Make this your real job. |
| 12. Learn to say "No". A fabulous teacher, I once knew | | | | 27. Stop waiting. Life is happening right now. Don't wait |
| said "Your 'Yes's mean nothing until you can learn to | | | | for the right career, the perfect relationship, the landfill |
| say "No." Many people, especially women, have a | | | | of money. Make the best of what you have right now |
| problem with saying the word "NO", mostly in fear of | | | | and be creative with it. Don't put your life on pause. |
| letting someone else down. And in order to live your | | | | Live with the possibility that what you are waiting for |
| best possible life, you need to learn how to say NO to | | | | can arrive tomorrow, and live your best life TOD AY. |
| the things that aren't serving you. Living out Loud | | | | Time is Now. Make use of it. This moment doesn't |
| means taking your "Yes's" seriously. The best | | | | repeat itself tomorrow. Tomorrow is a different |
| barometer to measure this by is: if it isn't a "HELL YES | | | | moment. Live today's moment. Today. |
| " (yippee, so fun, can't wait), then it is most probably a | | | | 28. Let other people off the hook. They didn't mean |
| NO. If you have to talk yourself into it, it's a NO. Living | | | | harm, and even if they did, it hurt them more than it |
| your life on purpose is following the Yes's. Once you | | | | hurt you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and rise |
| get comfortable saying NO, everything becomes a | | | | even taller. Living Out Loud is Thriving out Loud. Don't |
| matter of choice. Living a life of choice is a living a life | | | | use anyone as your excuse to shirk your responsibility |
| of freedom. Living a life of freedom is good. | | | | to live a bigger life. Victimhood is not a badge of honor. |
| 13. Know your own value. Do not defer. There is no | | | | Overcoming adversity is. Use success and joy as your |
| one above or below you. Others may be more | | | | barometer. And march on. |
| educated, skilled or talented in one or another area, but | | | | 29. Use co-creation to help you. We have at our |
| there is something magnificent and valuable about | | | | disposal a power that creates worlds. We are |
| what you have to offer this world that, in comparison, | | | | ALWAYS working in conjunction with invisible forces. |
| is equal. Do not allow yourself or anyone else to | | | | Acknowledge them, address them, put them to work. |
| diminish it. It is a "sin"(error in thinking), to deny your | | | | They want to create on your behalf, but they are |
| greatness. The great teacher Jesus, who once walked | | | | waiting for your leadership to direct them. Consider |
| this earth said, "Yea are Gods'. . . and yea shall do | | | | them invisible managers in the sky. They have broad |
| greater things than me". How do you know he wasn't | | | | reach and are ready to put into place your heart's |
| talking about you? What are you hiding? Are you a | | | | desire. Living Out Loud means acknowledging that we |
| computer geek? So was Bill Gates. Billionaire. What? | | | | are a big presence with a big force of nature at our |
| You have a learning disability? So did Dr. John | | | | disposal. We don't underestimate our power. We utilize |
| Demartini and that's what makes him the most | | | | it. |
| powerful speaker today. Joe Vitale came from | | | | 30. March to the beat of your own drum and STAY |
| homelessness. Look at him now? Stop idolizing anyone | | | | THE COURSE. Do you hear your own music, but find |
| else's gifts and/or dismissing your own. Stop hiding | | | | yourself dancing to the tune of someone else's beat? |
| your light under a bushel. Take pride in your talents. | | | | Stop it. Were you told at any point in your life that your |
| Living Out Loud is allowing yourself to shine and | | | | own music was the wrong kind? Re-Consider. Your |
| allowing others to do the same.Don't know what sorts | | | | own music has genius to it. Just like the acorn has |
| of talents you have? Good. Then, it's time to find out! | | | | contained within it everything it needs to become an |
| 14. Give yourself permission. For everything. Give | | | | oak tree, so within your own music, do you have the |
| yourself permission to make mistakes. Give yourself | | | | notes to play out your life's grand song. The symphony |
| permission to shine. Give yourself permission to look | | | | of the world's vibration, the hum of it's tune, is the |
| beautiful. Give yourself permission to accept (instead | | | | sound OM (aum). The task is to find your own Om - |
| of correct or dismiss) praise. Give yourself permission | | | | your life force vibration; life pattern or purpose; your |
| to have bad days. Give yourself permission to get | | | | song or melody - and to live it. We all have a divine |
| angry. Give yourself permission to cry, to laugh, to | | | | patterning, a blue print that we can't escape, something |
| scream. Give yourself permission to take the day off. | | | | that has our original imprint on it. As we move closer |
| Give yourself permission to take a nap, go to sleep | | | | and closer in alignment with this source, we feel closer |
| early. Give yourself permission to get a massage. Give | | | | and closer to our own divinity, our own God, our own |
| yourself permission to do nothing. Give yourself | | | | life force, our own "OM". So the task is always to find |
| permission to succeed. Give yourself permission to fail. | | | | it, claim it, express it, and live it. And to never (not ever) |
| Life is about LIVING, not about getting there, being | | | | give up on yourself. You are who you are. It's time to |
| there, acquiring stuff, or pursuing some end result. Life | | | | honor that and make use of it. Stay the course. |
| and living is about being here NOW, in all your full range | | | | For many of us, this is already a way of life. But to |
| of emotions, mood swings, wins and losses. Take | | | | others, some of these practices may feel daunting. To |
| responsibility for where you are, now. It will change | | | | you, I say this: just start. You may not succeed 100% |
| soon enough tomorrow. Give yourself permission to | | | | of the time, but like a friend once said, "life is a hard hat |
| Live Out Loud. Today. No shame. | | | | zone, we're always under construction." |
| 15. Own your own opinion. No one has to agree with | | | | Bloom where you are planted. Work from the inside |
| you in order for your opinion to matter. Stop waiting for | | | | out. Make the commitment to yourself and get started. |
| consensus. YOU matter. Your opinion matters. The | | | | Find your "OM". Claim It. Own it. Express It. Live it. You |
| nature of Living Out Loud is that some people will | | | | are divinely supported. |
| agree with you and some people won't. You will | | | | |