| Meeting: acknowledgment, acceptance, spiritual hello, | | | | Match that with current world events and we have a |
| individuation | | | | master challenge on our hands, yet we are the first |
| Matching: becoming or absorbing surrounding energies, | | | | generation of Westerners en mass who've been |
| emotions, thoughts or state of a person nearby; | | | | graced with the capacity to actualize a more |
| enmeshment. | | | | integrated existence. How do we find and sustain our |
| Personal Story: | | | | natural vibration in this milieu? |
| Several years ago I ran into an acquaintance I hadn't | | | | One of the keys is discernment, knowing the |
| seen for quite a while. She asked me, "how is your | | | | difference between meeting someone where they are |
| anger lately?" Velvety smooth and easy, it was as if | | | | and matching their energy, desperately trying to |
| she'd said "hi, how've you been, beautiful?" I laughed | | | | communicate and connect. One person pulls another |
| and said, "I'm much better, and, I still get angry about | | | | out of a hole and the next shoves them in even |
| traffic around town." | | | | deeper. |
| Her response to me was, "Why don't you feel grateful | | | | When someone speaks in limitations, do you climb |
| that we're so in the flow? It's amazing we don't have | | | | aboard just to be kind or sympathetic? Or, do you |
| more accidents." | | | | differentiate yourself, sustaining your own personal |
| What an interesting thought, one I've never forgotten, | | | | vibration? Maybe you're someone who can help |
| and each day I recall that comment while driving | | | | another shift up just by being present. Maybe you're |
| around in a town where unconscious drivers outweigh | | | | someone who runs away hiding from the game |
| the conscious, 10-1! And even though I don't always | | | | entirely. And maybe, you feel obligated or just want to |
| hold a perfectly high vibration of driving gratitude, I | | | | look helpful. |
| always remember to shift, just like my transmission, as | | | | I know people whose financial troubles have seeped |
| smoothly as possible into a higher gear, particularly | | | | into future generations, and then they attract mates |
| when leaping out to call someone a weenie during rush | | | | who somehow match that programming. They say |
| hour! | | | | things like, "oh, she's just like her Mother!" And they say |
| All that old anger was my responsibility because I | | | | it like they're looking at a baby, "Isn't she cute!" It's a |
| expressed it, sometimes unnecessarily, and I continued | | | | subtle yet very profound enticement to remain |
| to make momentary choices to react in anger. And, | | | | disempowered. |
| what I'm really talking about here, is the choice to | | | | It takes no effort to match a lower vibration, whereas |
| resonate with the collective consciousness rather than | | | | the road to fully meet someone is not well-traveled. In |
| the collective unconsciousness. | | | | meeting others there is nothing to gain, no grounds |
| Back then, no matter how much I tried, I couldn't break | | | | from which to compare. It's about full presence, |
| the pattern I'd created long, long ago, and instead of | | | | acceptance and equality. |
| meeting and observing the anger out in the world, I | | | | Somehow along the way we either resist and lose |
| matched it because it was part of my unconscious | | | | sight of this potentiality, or we buy into the warp of |
| reactivity. | | | | loneliness. We put on our blinders, follow the well-worn |
| Choosing to Meet or Match: | | | | path home, like a barn-sour old horse, rarely reaching |
| You too have probably found yourself open hearted | | | | out to truly meet a person. |
| and relaxed when you're home alone, and the minute | | | | We're trapped inside our own stories and overlays, |
| you step into the world, you quickly become | | | | generally distracted. We don't know how to disengage |
| overwhelmed with emotions that didn't exist behind the | | | | appropriately, staying present, therefore we're often |
| doors of your sanctuary. This is often a case of | | | | trying to rescue someone or acting aloof and distant. |
| matching the collective emotional currents and lack of | | | | The alternatives are brand new territory. Whether we |
| differentiation and individuation. | | | | disengage from someone's suffering, offering that |
| Sit in a meeting and observe how one defensive | | | | hand-up out of the trench, or let them wallow right |
| person pulls everyone else into a state of conflict. | | | | where they are, it's risky business because it's not |
| Notice how our vibrant new President has lost some | | | | necessarily how we were programmed to respond. |
| of his luster. It's not that these people want to drop | | | | Still, it's only the beginning, yet these are much healthier |
| down, they are simply vibrating at the level of all the | | | | choices for both parties. When will you decide? |
| heavy agendas and expectations surrounding them. | | | | When people around you are either sweeping the |
| What an incredible feat it would be to rise above all | | | | news of the Gulf oil spill under the carpet or are |
| that! | | | | outraged and dramatically engaging in expanding the |
| Next time you listen to a dramatic story, watch how | | | | negativity of this event, do you match, or do you meet |
| quickly you begin to feel ill-at-ease, maybe someplace | | | | them? |
| deep inside or even after the fact. Walk into a funeral | | | | When a man falls overboard, it's really difficult to pull |
| home noticing how everyone drops down to match | | | | him out of the water, if you can even find him. He's |
| death, feelings of mortality and grief for the loss of | | | | soggy and twice as heavy, disappearing into the |
| corporeality, or turns external pain inward. | | | | troughs or bobbing around at the will of the currents. |
| Notice families, how one person's vibration becomes | | | | He's weak and hopeless, nearly unconscious from the |
| the norm. It's great when everyone's enthusiastic, yet | | | | cold. This makes his body all the more unwieldy. You |
| when there's a disgruntled and inherent lack of | | | | are his only bridge to life, and as you bend over trying |
| abundance at the elder level, it often finds its way into | | | | to haul him up, you slip on the wet deck, already off |
| the offspring. An angry parent often begets an angry | | | | balance from the rolling motion of the waves. You |
| child; an abuser at the head of household penetrates | | | | could easily fall into the fathoms of the deep blue sea, |
| the children, and everyone gathers at the easiest, | | | | lost forever. Do you keep reaching, dive in, or do you |
| often the lowest, common denominator out of survival. | | | | let him go? |